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Sunday, March 8, 2009

business of living

oh i've been a bad blogger. The business of living has been seriously interfering with my blogging time - although i have continued to enjoy reading all the other amazing blogs out there. Today i am packing to go on a journey to resolve a bad business partnership in a safari camp. We went in with dreams, but the waking from these dreams has truly been the cold light of day. Its a strange thing being wrong - not that i am a stranger to it but it makes you doubt your own judgement and intuition. As ever, it is the biggest learning curve.

So this is one trip I am not looking forward too - but I look forward to this whole issue being filed in the archives of history and lessons learned - hard or otherwise.  Apparently we are supposed to be grateful to these teachers of hard lessons, for the opportunity they give us to grow. I am sure I will be able to do this one of these days. But for the moment I am sad and disappointed. I would prefer to be focussed on something creative and positively forward moving instead of lengthy damage management.

So I shall make new dreams and focus on them. And I shall tell you of my travels when they are a history lesson. And certainly there will be some side stories of interest along the way.
Possibly with pictures.


23 comments:

Maria said...

I just fund your blog this morning and have spent most of my day reading!
And I will keep on reading because I've fallen in love with your way to write and to describe life in Africa!

Thank you for this wonderful blog and I wish you a big bunch of luck sorting out the business on your trip!

Fire Byrd said...

Hope all goes well. And everything that needs resolving gets done.
Looking forwrd to hearing about the better bits of your trip nd the photos
xx

lakeviewer said...

Sorry to hear about the situation with your business. The standard answer, that whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, does not work in this case. What will work is your self talk. Keep telling yourself that you are still who you are; your principles, your goals, your ethical beliefs. What has changed is the set of skills you need for this task, possibly outside armature, legal advice, financial support, etc... You knew this already. Just keep telling yourself that you know what comes next, and next, and...

Absolute Vanilla (and Atyllah) said...

Oh I'm so sorry to hear about the business partnership. All you can do, as you know, for now is to walk through it and keep going. The lessons are always bitter at this point but yes, you will grow and you will learn. I've been in this situation myself and the one thing I would say is don't berate yourself for any of the decisions or anything that happened. Everything happens for a reason and all things are always just as they should be.
Strength and love to you - and enjoy seeing the world from behind the lens of your camera - it's always so healing.
xx

Rob Inukshuk said...

Oh bugger Val. So sorry the thing's gone pear shaped. Deep breath, grit teeth, sort it, get home and move on. Not lekker, but there is much in life that we just have to deal with, however unpleasant. The good thing though is that this too will pass.
Thinking of you!

Catharine Withenay said...

Hope your travels go well. As always, I love reading your writing about Africa, so despite the difficult reasons for your journey I look forward to the stories afterwards.

Janelle said...

pole sana val. hmmmm...sounds tedious and sad...you are strong and lovely...it will be ok...GOOD LUCK...and remember life is too sweet and lovely to let something like this irk....HUGE love hope all goes as well as it possibly can, inshallah...xxx j

Kristin said...

The business of living does get in the way of so many things. I'm sorry to hear of the hard journey you must take, and I wish you luck.

Reya Mellicker said...

Apparently we are supposed to be grateful to these teachers of hard lessons, for the opportunity they give us to grow. I am sure I will be able to do this one of these days. But for the moment I am sad and disappointed.

I have a hard time feeling grateful for these kinds of lessons as well, even after the fact.

That said, I do agree with Miles Davis, that there is no such thing as a mistake. I know you'll be the wiser for it all.

Wisdom extracts its pound of flesh, doesn't it?

Angela said...

I am so ANGRY at this lady, your former friend (or so you thought), and all the disappointment and sadness she created! All this inventing excuses to leave you in uncertainty, and in reality just CHEATING you! Bleah on such people! But listen to lakeviewer, it is not YOUR mistake, it is HERS! Your moral standards are right and good, and don`t allow her to make you feel bad!
I hope everybody will help you now, and you`ll have good stories to tell us afterwards! Am thinking of you!!

karen said...

wow, Val. sorry to hear about all this... how often it is that these business shocks are sent to us with some sort of hideous learning experience tagged on.. if only one could just learn the lessons without all the pain (been there, done that - several times). wishing you lots of love and support... hope it's not too long till we hear from you again? xx

Crystal Jigsaw said...

Yes, living does get in the way of blogging from time to time! Looking forward to hearing about your new dreams.

CJ xx

Lori ann said...

wishing everything to happen that you and k need and want. will keep fingers crossed. and yes, what janelli said, you are strong and lovely. everything will be ok.
lots of love,
lori

Pam said...

"This too will pass" is really an excellent mind set to get through these times,as Rob Inushuk already commented.When I look back on unpleasant times and think how did I get through that - it was just take a deep breath,this has to be done, and this person is definitely in the wrong. Your blog is great, and I look forward to your photos. May sheer determination get you through-you are strong - and best of luck!

Marilynne said...

I hope it all goes well. Don't think of it as a failure, think of it as a bad thing averted.

Val said...

my dear friends - thank you so much for your kind and supportive comments! i really appreciate them and while going through this process, your words drift back to me and keep me focussed on a positive outcome. thanks for being there xx

e said...

Wow, Val! Sorry fot your business troubles. I hope you can do what you need to and know that you have friends and support available.
All the best.

Tessa said...

I'm sorry I'm so late in wishing you well. I, too, have been rather caught up with the business of living. I do hope it all goes smoothly, Val, it's such a horrid thing to have to deal with.

karen said...

Hi val, hope you're still around. There's an award for you on my blog.. i know you've had it before, but still... :)

e said...

Val,

There's an ward for you at my blog!

Cheers!

Janet said...

character building girl friend is what "they" always say!
How much more character does a girl need is my question??
Hope it all goes well
xx

Val said...

thanks so much everyone for your lovely supportive comments. I am so proud and thankful to know you all. Your words and messages make such a difference.
well am almost ready to start blogging again....
thanks for hanging in with me! xxxx

lakeviewer said...

Looking forward.